Preston has been driving us crazy with his constant need for attention and defiant behaviour. I think this is simply because we can't give him 100% attention all day long - for our sanity and also because we do need to get things done during the day. His behaviour issues seem to stem from boredom (he is far too clever and most things don't hold his attention for more than a minute) and tiredness (we fight a multi-hour sleeping battle every night, only to be rudely awoken very early in the morning).
So, since I can't get anything done at home usually, and my patience has been worn dangerously thin, I'm getting some help. Starting this week, I am having either a nanny or a high school aged babysitter come for a few hours each day to play with Preston! This will give me time to deal with Maxwell plus all the other things I need to do around the house, and hopefully it means I will be able to finish a job rather than being interrupted every 2 minutes! I have a nanny/preschool teacher starting next Friday who will come for the whole day. Preston also likes this idea because it means I'm taking him out of his daycare, which he no longer enjoys (all his friends left, including the good teachers, and now the remaining kids are either mean to him or are generally too young for him to play with properly).
I'm also enrolling him in an accelerate preschool class. For a long time many people (both friends and doctors etc) have told us that Preston could be 'gifted' and we should look at special schools for him. We have been pretty much against this idea as we don't want to label him or push him or whatever and figured we would wait until he is at school to see what additional educational needs he has. However with his boredom-triggered behaviour and persistent need to figure out how the world works, I've looked up the Small Poppies preschool after reading about it yesterday. Out of curiosity, I got their enrolment pack which had a series of questions relating to behaviour, mental and physical development and skills etc to help determine whether the child fits into their category. As I ticked nearly all the boxes on 2 pages of questions, it felt like they must have snuck in and monitored Preston for a while, because it very accurately described him!
So while we have been against the concept of sending him to a gifted school, it seems that it might actually be quite appropriate for him, and let's face it - since I'm having a constant battle with him, if there is a structured program that is designed to help, then it's worth a try. The preschool is only one morning a week, and I'm very curious to see what it is like.
I should mention though that we are extremely proud of Preston and his abilities - he is so amazingly clever and has the most interesting 'true' logic (unspoilt by decades of 'exceptions' to rules). When he is being good, he is such a lovely boy with perfect manners and a very caring nature. We spent the whole weekend pretty much giving him 100% attention and despite not getting anything else done, we had a lovely time with him, and I think there were no time-outs for two whole days!